Emotions Or Rationale, What Will You Choose?

by | Oct 23, 2016

“Paise de do. Mere Maa nahi, Mere Papa nahi.” (Translation: Please give me some money. I don’t have any parents)

I had just got down at Sabarmati Railway Station after a 15 hour journey from Delhi to Ahmedabad and was waiting for my cab while sipping on a cup of tea. A little girl around 7-8 years old with a neatly knotted ponytail and a big jute bag, mumbled these quoted words to me. She had a captivating stare. Even though she stood really close to me and I glanced at her multiple times, not even once did I notice the dress she was wearing. Her eyes and the jute bag stole the show, each time.  She kept pleading and touching my knees. She wasn’t like other beggers, she would speak softly and hold the pleading face without even a single sign of disappointment. Her expressions remained the same for the whole 5-10 minutes of our interaction along with the continuous chant of above line.

Me: What is your name?
Me: Who gave you this name?
“Mere Maa … (err) … Mere Nani ne, Mere Nani hain”

This fondled my doubt that she was lying about her parents and I returned back to my stone cold face. I was contemplating how this journey has made me so tired and the cab that I just ordered might take a dig on my monthly budget. Just then, two 20yr old boys with a demeanour of a regular station worker noticed the little girl. They saw the girl touching my knees and remarked, “are pair choo rahi hai.” (she is touching her feet). They gave away 3 rs to her and asked her to leave. Yet she kept pleading for me to donate. Maybe she could sense my indecisiveness and the almost strong urge to give what she wants.

Standing at Sabarmati railway station under the huge wall art of Mahatma Gandhi, I struggled to believe in truth. I struggled to believe that this little girl was speaking the truth. She would have been happy if I just gave her a 10 rs note. I had just paid the equivalent amount for a very dissatisfying cup of tea but I was resistant in giving it to this young girl. After a few more minutes of her pleading and me fighting the urge to donate; my cab arrived. I literally closed the doors on a person joining hands for some money. I could see her standing there while my Uber driver started the ride and we swayed away from the scene. He was completely indifferent to the face of Mansi but I could feel the regret growing inside me.

To tell you the truth, the image of Mansi pleading for money, makes me hate myself. Here I work in an organisation fighting for a pluralist society and there, I was unable to give dignity to a little girl’s request. She did not give expletives when I refused to give money, she just kept pleading. Would I have done the same to my little cousin asking for money? I would have happily given my whole salary to him but not to Mansi.  I wonder, why I have this unconditional love to someone who already have the resources and such distrust towards someone who clearly has less.

As I drafted this piece in my cab, I heard a loud knock on the window. A lady in her 20s, mumbling words so similar to that of Mansi. They both shared the same persuasive eyes and lured me to feel better by donating money. This loud knock reminded me about the readings on the begging condition in India. A retrace to all the articles that I’ve read about Indian beggars and how it has become a social issue in our country. A retrace to why I had once decided to stop giving alms. Begging is an accepted way of life in India. Since ages, Indian monks have practiced bhiksha (food obtained by asking for alms) with the purpose of conquering their egos. Many a times religious gurus ask a devotee to feed x number of poor to attract prosperity. When religion supports a certain activity, it undoubtedly becomes a part of the culture.

According to PTI, there are over 4 lakhs beggars in India and the number is growing. Various publications have citied the existence of begging gangs in India and the after-effect of this ever growing tribe. An Indian Blog subtitled, ‘Travel Guide to India’ warns travellers about the menace of beggary in India. She states, “More often than not there are well organized gangs who run begging rackets. Yes unbelievable but true there are big syndicates whose sole source of income is begging. For them begging is the easy way to earn money and they do it by playing on the sympathy of the unsuspecting tourist or passer-by.” Another online source, has pulled up a list of 10 richest beggars in our country. The first ranker is a 49yr old Mumbai beggar named Bharat. “He works as a professional beggar and earns approximately Rs 60,000 per month.” states Scoopwhoop.  Interestingly, there’s a concept of professional beggary in our country.

Poverty is real in India but beggary is not. It has become a racket or in fancier words, people have made a profession out of begging. It’s a social issue because how can we let our young generation be a victim of lethargy. It’s also a question of human rights. Are we okay with giving alms to a kid who should be in school and not pleading to our conscience? Are we okay with reaffirming a little girl’s belief that begging is a job? Are we okay with proving that telling a lie can bring fortune? It feels awfully bad to refuse a little girl’s request but it would feel worse to know that we are funding a begging racket in our own motherland.

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  1. chirag

    You write very well keep it up…

    • Yatti Soni

      Thanks 🙂

  2. chirag

    You write very well
    Keep it up…..

  3. Anupama Pain

    this is extremely thought provoking and lots of insight into your thought and feeling – great work!

    • Yatti Soni

      Thanks Anupama 🙂

  4. Esha Dwibedi

    Thank you for putting this in words. Every time I refuse to give alms, no matter how much I try not to, I do feel guilty. Don’t think I ever will stop feeling that way though, no matter my principles.

    • Yatti Soni

      I know Esha. The choice is tough but I think it’s quite natural to feel guilty. The beggars intentionally try to make us feel guilty. They appeal to our conscience.

  5. Swati Saxena

    Liked reading your thoughts and the way you’ve put the feelings 🙂
    One of my major urban stereotypes is that kids/adults who beg on traffic signals or other public places are usually forced to do it. Would like to check and break/affirm it some time.

    • Yatti Soni

      Can’t really comment on whether they are forced or not but there’s a racket for sure. If we support them with alms, the racket heads will be inspired to continue running it.

      Your comment reminds me of our first field exposures in Udaipur, trying to break stereotypes. Inspires me to dig deeper, will get back on this 🙂

    • Yatti Soni

      Thanks Lekshmy!


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